Services

To provide hope for men, women and the family struggling with
pornography and sexual addiction.

The Nathan Project provides:

FMO (For Men Only ) Groups / FWO (For Women Only Groups)
These groups deal exclusively with men and sexual addiction/compulsive sexual behavior and their spouses who suffered in large part because of this issue.

WHAT IS A CONFIDENTIAL FMO IMPACT GROUP?
• A safe place to share your thoughts and behaviors – the good, the bad and the ugly.
• A two hour weekly meeting with like minded men all struggling with sexual addiction.
• A place of acceptance where you will build a safety plan to help prevent future relapse.
• A meeting dedicated to the study of a Christian curriculum with an end goal of healthy sexuality.
• A place of discipleship where “iron sharpens iron” and men mature in community.
WHAT WE DO IN FMO
• Begin building an intimate relationship with God by His grace and trusting in Him.
• Participate in a detailed plan of study, accountability and commitment to change.
• Study the resource material and engage the curriculum by completing all homework.
• Be accountable to FMO brothers by sharing struggles and victories with authenticity.
WHAT FMO IS NOT
• An unsafe place of criticism, condemnation, shame or confusion.
• A place of denial where the addiction to obsessive and compulsive sexual behaviors are ignored.
• A secret place where men wear masks to hide their fears, faults and feelings.

FMO - A Small Group Overview: The 40/60/20 Format

Our For Men Only small groups are structured around accountability and knowledge. We need both in the healing process, but there is a reason why we must put accountability first. Our addictive lifestyles are built on isolation so that we can keep our secrets. For healing to happen there can be no secrets. Therefore, we must move toward vulnerable transparency, first in our FMO group and eventually with our family and significant friends.

With that in mind FMO groups we will spend the first 40 minutes evaluating the previous week's behavior using the FASTER Scale relapse awareness exercise. You have a copy of this form in your folder. We can learn much by evaluating the previous week's behavior; how and why things went well or how and why we have fallen anywhere from Forgetting Priorities to Speeding Up to Relapse or moral failure.
Each person will share their self evaluation guided by the leader with the entire group up to 5 or 6 men or in smaller groups of 3 or 4 as needed. We will read only what we have written. Your small group leader or partners will ask "why" questions if they believe your answers need clarification and/or expansion.

The 60 minute center segment is devoted to the pursuit of knowledge through the current curriculum over and above what you are learning through your devotional life and journaling. For you to experience the value of accountability you must gain both knowledge and a greater sense of self awareness (applied knowledge).

Our primary curriculums are the Pure Desire "Seven Pillars of Freedom" workbook and The Genesis Process for Change workbooks One and Two. You will study valuable information on sexual addiction and more importantly begin to have a greater sense of where you are in your addiction and how you arrived at this place in life. These materials will also give you the tools to risk change and by faith increase your hope!

The last 20 minutes, of each meeting is devoted toward your creating a safety/relapse prevention plan and identifying accountability partners for the coming week. That will entail the use of the double bind worksheet to define the obstacle (or problems) you will face in the coming week. You will then create a plan to overcome it sharing with your accountability partners what this plan looks like in action - who, what, where, why and when.

Read an FMO brochure here

Speaking Events:

Crisis Counseling

Training for FMO Leaders

Vicki Kardos - Genesis Counseling